From: Pointe
To: being left out

First up, hi! I think you have to know that in life, the only thing that stays constant is change. Everything changes in life. There can never be something that lasts forever in life. I know it's cruel, but really, life's like that.

Anyway, about being left out just because you're always the neutral one, I think that that is very common in cliques. Everyday, you will be the one being nice to everybody but in the end? You get left out from the clique. It pretty much sucks right? I understand but there's nothing you can do. If your clique leaves you out, then so be it! Find yourself some new friends and have fun. Show them that you are having fun and that them leaving you out hasn't affected you ( even if it does).

You mentioned that you don't speak to anybody from the clique nowadays even though you wish to right? So if finding new friends doesn't appeal to you, maybe you can try contacting them? I have to advise you against this though, doing so will make you seem like a desperate needy friend because it is kind of obvious that your clique doesn't wanna hang out with you anymore. Doing so will irritate them more. Finding new friends is a much better choice.

About your crush, just ignore the fact that he is in a clique and talk to him as normal. Don't worry about what those people in your clique might say, just be brave and talk to him. You mentioned that he still treats you nicely so you have a chance! A chance that might mean he likes you back too. Don't give up on this just because your clique leaves you out okay?

Be a brave girl ;)

To going MAD
From Hope

Hello there! It seems like you do have quite a bad time there with your friends... May i ask how long has the friendship been going? This friendship must reall very rocky if the three of you have inner quarrels between each other...
Alright, firstly i want you to identify who was the so called "mastermind" of this whole quarelling thing, like who's the one in the two of your friends calling the shots, influenceing the other friend, asking the other friend "why she was being os nice to you". After identidying her, its good to sit down and have a talk with her. Ask her why she's been acting like this, why she's having negative feelings towards you. Slowly thrash things out with the friend. After that, have the third friend to sit down and also have a talk, if things go well, then quickly do something (like shopping) to bond you all together again. However about the changing bfs thing, im hoping that you wont tell them about your love life for the time being. If they question about your current boyfriend or something, just call the boyfriend, "MY DAR" or whatever you want. Dont say the name, cos in case if you change again, you can still continue to refer as "MY DAR", to avoid misunderstandings. If they call you names behind your back, you should seriously start to think about the friendship, and make a choice whether you should continue being good friends with them. Think about it (:

Hope

To talkative-NOT
From Hope

Hello there. You told us here that you are not sociable. Darling im not going to teach you how to be sociable, its something that comes WITHIN YOU, and no one can teach that. It apperas to me that you have low self confidence, dont you? Work on it. How can one improve self confidence, by believing in yourself. If you believe you can do it, believe you are friendly, kind, sweet etc, then you just might be that to others. Having a good self confidence is good, but too much of it makes you arrogant and braggy, so do gauge the level.
Its really easy to strike up conversations with someone you do not know. Firstly, pluck up the courage, you do need that, and say the universal H word. Not Hell, but Hello or Hi, of course with a smile. It makes the person feel that you are amiable and open, and thats the beginning of the conversation.
You can talk about anything under the Sun, talking doesnt need too much thinking into it, it might seem to appear that you are too tight, however, not using a brain might result in offending or hurting people. Do talk, but let others have the chance to talk too. Dont go on and on and on, and bore the crap out of the person. Also, you could talk about your surroundings, your life, stuff, really. But never drag on it, and if your friend looks bored, please do change the subject. However, dont always talk about your problems, talkative-NOT. It may appear to make you look like a draggy emotional person. People like to hear happy chatty talk, so do talk about exciting stuff!
Talking is the essential thing to socialise and if you are too scared, you could start building up your skills by talking to your family and close friends about different matters and slowly build up! Most importantly, be yourself! Cos people want to know about you, and dont lie about youself. Cos its crappy.

Hope (:

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